Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
If I’m not sexually active, should I be?
So the Bible is not against masturbation?
How do I make sure my first time is meaningful and appropriate?
Are certain sex acts worse than others?
What would Jesus do? Can you imagine him discarding them after he has used them—even if they expect this treatment? Or are used to it? Or even if that is the only way they can have fun? Come on!!
Should I save myself for marriage?
How can I explore sexually without being sexually active?
What about lust?
Lust means an insatiable desire that you will do anything to get fulfilled. For example, King David lusted after Bathsheba and became a rapist and a murderer. Most people do not experience this level of insatiable greed. They do experience hormonal surges that we generally call “being horny.” When Jesus spoke of lust he was not referring to this aspect of being human that is common to us all. Instead, Jesus was talking to people who had a huge investmen in just following the (religious)rules, such as “Do not ever have any thoughts about sex with someone with whom you are not married.” His point was to say they wouldn’t violate the rule/law (in this case sexual immorality) if they had monitored the personal emotions or mindsets that would lead to the transgression. So, to see someone only as a physical body for one’s own sexual gratification, to fixate on that body, or to obsess about what sex would be like with them does objectify them and could lead to inappropriate sexual advances or behavior. That would be Jesus’ point. However, to have flashes of horniness is not lust, neither is having fantasies. So yes, though frew of us become sexually obsessed, monitor your mindset. But otherwise, enjoy the fantasies and celebrate the horniness. These are wonderful feelings that God created to keep us going!